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I don’t know if you caught what I wrote the other day.…You can read more about that here. One of the things that I mentioned in that post was that when a marriage experiences an affair it is because both parties have culpability in their marriage being in a place where one of them could have an affair.
One of the spouses.
Either of us.
Either one of us could have had an affair.
If needs aren’t being met in a marriage either one of us is capable of either intentionally or unintentionally attempting to get those needs met somewhere else.
Any one of us, given the right timing and circumstances is capable of having an affair. Anyone who says that isn’t possible is at the highest risk of having one.
Believe me, I wanted to sit with my husband through all of the conversations we had after his confession and scream, “I WOULD NEVER…” but that simply isn’t true.
And I never did that either.
In fact, one of the first things I did was confess my distress in our marriage, my failings, my thought life that had contributed to me looking at my husband as if he was less than, as if he didn’t measure up. I can’t imagine how that might impact how I actually treat him in real life. (ah..hem…). Read the rest of this entry »