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Feb-12-2013

MT Project: Every Day is Valentine’s Day

Posted by marria55 under Valentines
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Courtesy of www.freedigitalphotos.net

I don’t know why we make a such a big deal out of Valentine’s.

Some of us act as if our relationship hinges on our partners ability to get the gift just right. And if they don’t then the entire evening is clouded in disappointment.

Some of us choose to go to another extreme and cop out by refusing to participate because we reason the holiday is just a huge conspiracy between Hallmark and florist shops everywhere.

Is it?

Maybe it’s just something so much more simple. Maybe its just a once a year reminder of how we should be treating our partners EVERY DAY.

We do this with every holiday though don’t we?

We build up Christmas for weeks if not months before hand. Decorations, music, trees, lights, presents…when really, isn’t the celebration of Christmas just an opportunity to celebrate what God did for us? And that day isn’t just about that day. It should be just a reminder of how we should be celebrating God and his gift to us EVERY DAY.

We buy the biggest turkey we can find and load our tables up with the best comfort foods and go around the table and have everyone share one thing they are thankful for on Thanksgiving. Shouldn’t we be remembering everything that we have to be grateful for EVERY DAY? Thanksgiving isn’t the ONLY day we stop to remember what we’re thankful for and blessed with. Or is it? Boy, I’ve got to say, we’re missing out if it is.

And we are missing out in our marriages and relationships as well if we wait for Valentines to be THE DAY that we celebrate our love. We should be doing that EVERY DAY.

Consider Valentine’s a reminder. A catalyst for the rest of the year. An opportunity to, yes, specifically concentrate on your love and relationships for the day, but then…when the clock strikes 12 don’t go back to same old same old.

You know all those ideas that are all over that thing called the internet on ways to show your spouse you love them?
On great gift ideas for your spouse for Valentine’s? (Alecia gave ideas for men here, Clint gave ideas for women here.)
On budget friendly ways to go out on a date?
On ways to romance your spouse?

What if every day was Valentine’s?
What if every day you came up with at least one way to show your spouse how much they mean to you?
What if every day you showed your spouse appreciation?
What if every day you took initiative in the romance department?
What if everyday you chose to surprise your spouse with a little gift you knew they wanted?
What if every day you left your spouse a love note or sent them a sexy text?

What could that do for your marriage?
Maybe if we were treating every day like February 14th we wouldn’t put so much pressure on that one day.

Because, every day is a chance to make your spouse feel loved and special.
Every day has the potential to be Valentine’s.

 

We’re linking up with Great Peace Academy, and Titus 2sday, Wifey Wednesday, and Happy Wives Club!

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LaurenStuckyFlake 5 pts

 Don't get me wrong, I love holidays but you're so right that we shouldn't be saving up our gratitude for Thanksgiving, our adoration of Christ for Christmas and our love of our mate for Valentine's Day.  Holidays should just be special reminders of what we should already be doing every day!

marriagelife 8 pts moderator

 LaurenStuckyFlake Exactly. Sometimes it feels like that's what many of us are doing. Celebrating Jesus on Christmas, celebrating thankfulness on Thanksgiving...and it should be so much more than that. Thanks for stopping by!

happywivesclub 6 pts

I agree 100%.  I think it's a holiday created by either the flower, candy or card industries.  But the beauty is for those who do not love with their whole heart every day, there is at least one day a year they are reminded about how it should be throughout the year.  So February 15th will be just as beautiful as the 14th.

marriagelife 8 pts moderator

 happywivesclub Right. Regardless of who or why its a great excuse to go above and beyond to show our spouses how much we love them! And then keep doing it the rest of the year!

gracepamer12 6 pts

100% agree, that's why we try to practise romance as often as possible and why I encourage it so much through my blog.  I don't understand the need for it to just be one day.  You should be practising this stuff every day.  The little things, the love note or message in the lunch bag, a note on the table or blackboard to make you smile, the little unexpected present (a bagel even! it's what my hubby brought home yesterday), the unexpected meal out, the little touches here and there to raise a smile like my postcard chase I've been doing of recent... these things all add up to make it more than one day.  And no it doesn't have to be yucky or smaltzy, it's just about being thoughtful, caring and communicating, making them know how appreciated and special they are. 

 

I hope you guys have a great day today, tomorrow and every day celebrating love and romance.

 

Best

Grace

marriagelife 8 pts moderator

 gracepamer12 Awww...thanks so much! We hope you have a wonderful day as well!