I’ve been hearing a phrase lately that has been hitting me a little the wrong way…
“We can’t wait for the next chapter!”
Engaged couples getting married.
Married couples about to have their first child.
Couples getting ready to purchase their first home.
Couples making a big move.
Now don’t get me wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking toward the future, having goals and moving towards them, solidifying plans, making dreams come true, being excited about things to come. My concern is that I think too many of us are so busy living there – in the future – that we forget to be present. Here. Now. And more importantly we forget to see the good in what is right here.
We forget to be content.
I’ll be happy when I make more money at a better job.
Life will be better when we have a bigger house and more room to move around.
My life will be complete when I finally have my baby.
When I was younger one of the things that I remember saying to my parents all the time was how I couldn’t wait until I was 18. Oh, the things I’d be able to do when I was 18. Oh, the freedoms I’d have when I was 18. Oh, how life would be better, different, greater.
Let’s be honest. Before you’re 18 you’re not responsible for paying student loans. You’re not the one who has to fix (or pay for) problems that occur in your home – like the dishwasher exploding. You don’t get made fun of for enjoying naps. There are so many pluses to not being a full-fledged adult. Yes, there are perks too! But I was so busy looking toward the perks of being an adult that I forgot to keep my eye on the perks of being a kid.
Don’t do that in your marriage. In your relationships. In your career. In your life.
Your marriage won’t necessarily be better just because you move houses or across the country. It won’t improve because you have kids or get a better car or…
There are perks and non-perks to every stage of life. Every chapter.
Don’t be so focused on the next chapter that you forget to be the key player in the current chapter that you’re in.
Be a dreamer.
Be a goal setter and a goal maker.
But don’t let that be your end all.
Happiness is found in contentment.
In the ability to see the good in where you are at right now.
In the ability to see the good in everything you’re going through, every stage you’re passing through, no matter how long it lasts.
Yes, the next chapter will eventually come. And it’s okay to plan for it. And it might even be okay to look forward to it.
But live today. Be available today for your spouse and your kids. Be the best you can be today right where you are.
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